Gentleman's Club Meeting (May 19, 2023)

Have your life figured out, or at least the core of it. A gentleman is not someone who controls every aspect of his life, but who understands the rules of the game, and is aware of the direction he’s had it in understanding what your values are, and what you stand for, is the basis for daily decisions, one has to make. You’ll notice that the people who do not have clear goals for themselves and established destination are often chaotic and choices and behaviours. This is because unless you know where you’re going, any road is a viable option. Gentlemen, do not live in the state of the unknown.

A gentleman doesn’t voice an uneducated opinion. He will listen to a conversation with the purpose of learning from the person who’s speaking to. And only join in when he’s confident on the knowledge of the topic discussed. While most men have only a superficial understanding of the world, and usually their conversations revolve around the mundane, a gentleman’s ideas and opinions are rooted in a variety of sources and schools of thoughts, he’s aware of what’s happening in the world, but doesn’t waste time with the trivialities of celebrity life. Most of who we are as people is a combination of everything we’ve learned and encountered in life. The more you read, learn and educate yourself, the greater the complexity of the ideas and beliefs, you can master.

A gentleman doesn’t put emphasis on his plans and instead allows for his results to showcase his position. Everyone thinks they’re special and destined for greatness, until you draw the line and peek behind the curtain. Unfortunately for many men, there’s nothing there. It takes a lot of effort to be a poser to pretend you’re successful or virtuous. The irony is that if you would take the time and put in the same amount of effort, you could make progress towards genuine success. Some people mistake confidence for arrogance, a gentleman is confident in his ability, but never arrogant about it.

This is a big one that just very few people get right. This happens because it’s a more advanced way of thinking about life, which requires you to have already overcome the fundamental hurdles of existence. To summarise the fundamentals, you should be first able to take care of yourself, and then take care of others. You should first criticise yourself, and then criticise the world before you can change the world, you have to change yourself. Only after an individual has managed to move beyond the basics, can you live this life of true fulfilment. These individuals are usually change agents who by sheer dedication to their work, manage to change the world for the better. And you see these people being heavily rewarded by the world for their service and contribution. Life is not about serving yourself. It’s about serving others. The more people you serve, the higher the value you put into the world, some of that value will inevitably be reflected back onto you, But that’s not the driving factor once you hit that stage.

There’s one resource we all have a limited capacity, and that is time. A gentleman always will down to his and other people’s time, you should never cost others extra time, you could have optimised for being punctual says so much about who you are as a person that you can build an entire profile on someone based on this simple app. People who are always late are lazy and poor managers have their own lives. Not arriving on time, not only says you don’t value the time of others, but it shows you don’t have your life together. You’re simply unable to plan for things accordingly. You’re not really that bright and get easily distracted, you don’t take relationships seriously and actively disrespect others by not behaving in the manner you have agreed to beforehand.